For Young Married Ladies

A site where young women can communicate about art, media, and issues related to their marriage.

Monday, November 14, 2005

Mixer

This another video that I have decided to screw up...

Orignally, its from the Anime, Noir. But of course, this is my only favorite part of the whole series.

I placed Rza and Strata on the soundtrack... please give me your comments about the piece!


Saturday, October 15, 2005

Constantly Dreaming

I find that as an artist, I am always dreaming of new ideas for a career or project. This could be seen as a great skill or a form of disability.
Remaining focused on one idea, for a long period of time, is amazing for me.
Especially, since I have, like... 5 jobs!
Yes... I said five. Here, let me name them for you...
  1. Cleaner/Janitor for the house
  2. Cook and chief
  3. Fashion Designer
  4. Writer
  5. Lover
  6. counselor (oh.. I guess there is six!)
  7. Personal Secretary (wow! Seven!)

Anyway, the point of this post, is about focusing on what you want to do. Perhaps, making a list of everything you are planning to do in life will help you come into focus, and organize your priorities.

Enjoy

Wednesday, October 12, 2005

Some More Questions

Lets get some of your opinions, people:

Enter Your Name Below


1. Is flirting or liking someone else other than your partner considered wrong?


2. Have you've changed alot since you got married? How so?


3. Should women dress the same as they did before they got married, or should they dress more like their mothers?




Tuesday, October 11, 2005

Question?

Here are a few questions that I'd like to ask all of my Readers!
  1. As a married young woman, what type of clothes do you wear when going out on the town?

Is it appropriate to wear clothes that are revealing?

Well, you can't dress like your mom (that is if your mom dresses like an average middle aged woman) and you can't dress like you did before you settled down (... Or can you?)

This is actually a trick question. You both need to find out what works for both of you. In fact, I suggest dragging him down to the mall with you one day, and have him pick out the clothes that he feels comfortable in seeing you wear, then come to and agreement.

P.S. If he refuses to go, the next time he brings up how you dress in an argument, make sure you point out that he can come shopping with you if he wants to, and how are you suppose to know what is right to wear if he doesn't communicate.

2. Here's a famous question: How has marriage changed you?

For me, being married to my husband has completely changed the way I have been thinking. I am not so quick to react on my impulse.

The places I use to go, have become irritating. Clubs, for example, look more and more like the breeding grounds rather than a place to dance. In fact, there are times that I feel that I can actually smell the Hormones in the air.

How I dance, when I DO go out has changed. Somewhere along the way, I said good bye to BAD GIRL Pinky, who would whine and grind on my dance partner, like those girls on Sean Paul Videos. Now... Well... Not quite 'square' dancing. But extremely toned down. In fact, I think I have toned it down for so long, that I think I forgot how to Shake My Booty on the dance floor, like how I use to.

Locked off all old friends, who urged me to go back to my old lifestyle.

The sad truth is that I think I am turning in to a younger version of my mom!

3. Finally, last question: Is it wrong to flirt or fancy another?

Another tricky question. I guess it is for you to decide. But for me, my answer is NO.

True, we are married and bound by vows. But! We did not marry to become dead (as my mom would say). We where created with the ability to appreciate all forms of beauty (from mental to physical).

I don't believe that to stop, glancing at someone cute is wrong. Its when you take it to the next level... Like Adultery. (Unless, you are the type of couple that is extremely open... Then by all means explore all types of Dick and Ass and be FREE!) (LOL)

All I can say for the open relationship couples is... "Goody For You!" (In Fact, more and more younger couples are exploring the definition of an Orgy, very carefully.)


Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Liz Wright ~ Artist and Performer





This girl has got soul!!!! I think that everyone in the world should hear her album at least once!
This album I got is "Dreaming Awake" here is a short Biography of her:

"Music lives in that place where anything can be picked up. It can become a different statement in someone else's hands than in my hands. The fact that it can be passed from hand to hand is something beautiful, almost spiritual. It means different things in different places, and I approached this record as if there is no history. I was just a voice, and I loved it."
- Lizz Wright
With her latest album, Dreaming Wide Awake, Lizz has simultaneously delivered a record with "no history" and yet one that embraces the history of jazz, gospel, rhythm-and-blues and the singer-songwriter tradition. It is a record where Lizz Wright's voice and vision seamlessly marry songs once performed by Neil Young, Fats Waller, The Beatles, Madonna and Herb Alpert's Tijuana Brass to self-penned originals and her collaborations with some of today's most gifted songwriters to create one of the most strikingly original albums of the year.
For the new album, Lizz chose to work with Craig Street, a producer famous for his work with a broad palette of singers (Cassandra Wilson, k.d. lang, Me'Shell NdegéOcello) to shape an incredibly personal album that Lizz feels best reflects who she is right now: "When I first met Craig, he asked me what I liked to listen to and I said I really like stuff like Jeff Buckley, Damien Rice and Sarah McLachlan. I love songs that create moments. At the same time I had this dilemma where I've been trained to sing gospel, choral music and a little bit of opera and was very used to being technical. But I wanted to make the move away from those styles."
The twelve songs that create moments on Dreaming Wide Awake range from Lizz's self-penned title track to The Youngbloods' Summer of Love anthem "Get Together," from her co-writes "Hit the Ground" and "Trouble" to the 1960's pop smash "A Taste of Honey" and from originals by Marc Anthony Thompson (a.k.a. "Chocolate Genius") to Neil Young's classic "Old Man."
The middle child of a minister from rural Georgia, Lizz took the music world by storm in 2003 with breakout performances at Billie Holiday tributes in Chicago and Los Angeles and with her debut album Salt (Verve), where her rich gospel-trained contralto soared amidst a soulful R&B-meets-jazz setting. The New York Times' Stephen Holden was moved to call her "a young singer and songwriter of astonishing maturity and poise" and write that "in her debut album and on the stage, Ms. Wright delivers spun gold . stir(ring) jazz, gospel, and rhythm-and-blues into a reflective, flowing style that elongates songs into prayerful meditations that never wander into vagueness. Pitch-perfect, with a smoky, full-bodied texture . impressive in its steadiness, control and rhythmic subtlety."
A different sort of taxicab confession describes Lizz's inspiration for her follow-up album Dreaming Wide Awake: "I was in a Green and White cab in Atlanta going down Peach Street Hill when I heard Sarah McLachlan's 'Angel.' It was an incredible moment. I realized that was the kind of thing that I really wanted to do." Building on, and breaking away from, the musical vocabulary she had established, Lizz reached for a new instrument - the guitar: "For Salt I had written all my songs on the piano. But when I heard this idea in my head, I grabbed the guitar, made up some chords and just kept singing;" that song became "Trouble" - the first song she learned how to play on the instrument and her first original composition for this album. "Hit the Ground," another original heard here, was started with chords she picked up while learning to play "Amazing Grace" on the guitar, and finished in collaboration with two of today's premier songwriters - Jesse Harris and Toshi Reagon. Lizz's evolving sound and skills as a songwriter are marked by her move to the re-launched Verve Forecast label, an imprint focused on great music outside the jazz genre and original home to such seminal singer-songwriters as Laura Nyro, Tim Hardin, and Richie Havens.
Dreaming Wide Awake opens with acoustic guitar and understated hand drums on "A Taste of Honey;" the sixties pop staple gets a stripped-down swamp-blues treatment, recasting it miles away from its confectionary origins and giving the song a gravity heretofore not explored. One of the album's great delights is to hear familiar songs re-born in Wright's hands. The gentle standard "I'm Confessin" reveals a vulnerable side to Wright not seen on the last album; the nursery sing-along "Wake Up, Little Sparrow" from "The First Lady of Children's Music" Ella Jenkins becomes a cautionary lullaby, while "Get Together" and "Old Man" are reaffirmed as being as a relevant today as they were in generations past.
Indeed, Dreaming Wide Awake seems a wholly appropriate title for an artist's continued awakening to the many facets which make her a singular talent: "Sometimes we do things and realize the wisdom of what happened later, after doing it," says Wright; "That's what happened with this record. Naturally I'd wanted to take a step further or a notch up. But I'm learning that deep inside myself, beyond the echoes of other peoples' expectations and thoughts about who I am and what I do, I really like simplicity and I am a very mellow person. This project helped me to be okay with expressing that."


Oh yeah, if you get a chance to see this girl live. I would go! She is excellent!

Check out her site for more info: http://www.lizzwright.net/

This Song Is Called "The Taste Of Honey"





Tuesday, September 13, 2005

My Greatest Theory!

The List Of Men And Boys:


  1. The Player~ A man lost or confused. A man who's only comfort follow physical needs! He usually lacks respect for himself and others.
  2. Thug~ (or "So Called") He tends to follow the stereotypical definition of what a man should be (when it comes to being excepted in minor clicks within his area)
  3. The Wantabe~ Also, lost. And also ignorant! Similar to the "Thug" except he really has NO excuse for his actions!
  4. Shy~(Usually the guy most women find exciting to corrupt!) With holds his true nature. Eventually lets out all nasty and unusual secrets!
  5. Impulsive~ A man who thrives on being spontaneous... Or lashes out!
  6. Workaholic~ This guy can go either way! Either devoted to work because of supporting his family or working to get away from them.

The List Of Important Key Points Of A Relationship:

  1. Passion~ I am sure you heard the stories of a married couple drifting apart because of... No SEX!!!! Now, girls... I know that a lot of you feel that it is within your power to starve your man into 'acting right'. But the reality check is... They Are Only Men!!! Their brains (in both areas) can't with hold too much torcher. In Fact, I am sure that they could survive any other form of inhumanely torcher, except the lack of SEX. I think they seriously believe that they will DIE without it... sigh. And awe.
  2. Communication~ In my opinion, communication is the number one fact, why relationships fail!!! In one of my previous posts (scroll down to "The Solution Books"), try writing down all your problems and your solutions. Discuss it with each other, than work it out!!!
  3. Trust~ If you don't trust him... Um... Why are you with him. That is truly not healthy. For you or him.
  4. Dedication~ Be proficient with all promises. " Don't promise anything that you can't keep"
  5. Honesty~ Now, you screamed at him for being wrong... But you forgot something! YOU! You are defiantly not a saint. Stop acting like your shit don't stink, and admit when your wrong... Make him admit it to.
  6. Understanding~ Do you know him? I mean, do you really know him? If you said: "Yes! I do!" I would say: "No! You Don't". Nobody knows anybody completely. Everyday you learn something new about someone. Take note of that...
  7. Common Sense~ Do I really have to explain this? No? Good.
  8. RESPECT~ As Aretha and the Staple Singers use to sing about! Respect yourself and your partner!!!

Well those are my lists for the day!!! Enjoy!

Pinks

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

Noise (A Short Story)

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Let me tell you a story, about things that I completely hate. People, Noises, Sex and Laughter. Screaming, Fear, and the sound of a body being beaten.

And yet... Here I am, alone in the dark.

Music played in the hallway on the otherside of where they had locked me away. I could constantly hear that shrieked laughter. It echoed in my ears. I know that I should scream... But my throat and voice is dry from the lack of water and the hours of calling out. And Yet nobody seemed to care. People are selfish. Many of my kidnappers were once friends, who became jealous from my own peace of mind. And the boys... Or men...

The black man has changed into a dog whilst a white man has feasted on my body like a pig. And to think that I once claimed one of them as mine, but then he changed. I should have fled at the earlier signs.

God! Stop the noise... Of laughter, fuckin', music, and screaming. I can't take it any more.

And at the end of it all I know that at school, they'll call me slut or whore, tell me that I don't know what I am talking about,then, abuse me, and hunt me down. I think that I am broken. My body is ready to colaspe. But the noises... The noises are everywhere, and making me go mad. Perhaps, the noise is what is keeping me going. Perhaps...

Shut UP! Let me out of here, please. God, please take me somewhere else. A place of peace and silence...

No more cackling of witches or barking of dogs. No more laughter, squeaks, squeals or any other type of noise.

I sigh to myself, and to look around the room. My eyes carefully scan for a way out, and finally scout out something in the distance.

In shadow I see it, a gun. Laying on top of a table against the far wall. My eyes stare at it as if it was a miracle handed to me.

It whispers to me, and I know that I can hear its lies. And yet, its so clean and smooth. I glance at the trigger, and look deep into the gun barrel.

Shhhhhhhhhhh, it tells me, silence. The hole leads to silence, this trigger is the button to silence.

I hear the doorbell ring outside. The ring echoes in my head. I hear the girls outside stop laughing ,and I hear the guys lighten their footsteps as they creep to the door. I look back to the gun, and slowly crept closer to my silent fantasy.

I hear russling outside, voices are screaming. I hear a crash outside.

Still desperately trying to block out the sounds I take a few more steps closer until I gazed down at my sancuary.

The door behind slammed open just as I started to place the gun to my face. But I refuse to turn back...

I pull the trigger, and...
Its empty! A hand snatched the gun away from my hands, and spun me around. I looked up to see my brother's face with tears in his eyes. I saw his eyes scan my body in shock at the sight of me.

My clothes were thrashed and torn. My mouth was dry and my body bruised.

It was three days since I last saw my brother, three days of being trapped in this room. Left alone to hear and see the horror being done to me.

He didn't saw anything. He only pulled me closer and rocked me back and forth. And for once I was at peace... and in silence.



by Pinky White

Friday, September 02, 2005

An Artist Married To An Artist

I feel that one most complicated issues regarding marriage, is if both spouses are extreme artists... I believe that artists involved with two different extremes of art will either clash or grow together.

Your chosen spouse's gift or talents, will eventually rub off on you, and vice versa. Making them, or you, gradually becoming interested in the spouse's projects or art.

The problem with this trade of skills, sadly can coincide with the following situations:
{Please take note that these are random statistics from various individuals...}

  1. The house, or living space, will usually remain a complete disaster area.
  2. One of you will be the dominant at first, and the one in charge usually shall push his or her projects first.
  3. One may at one point attempt to claim victory over another's idea, and state that " This is a project for the both of us" (Gag) Seriously, take note of any creative ideas shared with the other individual.
  4. The one that chooses to follow the other, maybe artistically become frustrated!!!!!!!!!!!! (Constant waiting is the greatest killer to Ideas and Motivation)
  5. ...Or perhaps the 'follower' is merely at peace with their current circumstance.
  6. Finding Capitol to fund all or both projects may bring more arguments (beware) And once again a longer waiting period... (Basicly sending your motivation to the guillotine).
  7. One may become dependent on the other for many reasons, the other can slowly become dependent on the availability and skills to assist with their projects.
  8. You both finally decide to say " Fuck This Shit!!!" and partner up to become the MEGA Power Couple (The Ultimate Goal!!!!!!!!)
  9. ...Or you choose a different route and become the weakest Link' (when marriage and friendship is concern).

A closing note! As a passionate artist YOU must make the descion to stand your ground, take control of your own future, be a loving spouse and friend, and to raise your own capitol against this artistically evil 'enemy' (LOL). Women and Men should unite! The true blazing passion is calling you. Fulfill your dreams WITHIN your own expectations, with your partner supporting you by your side.

Pinks

Tuesday, August 09, 2005

Child

Sunday, July 17, 2005

For Young Married Women

Find Your Balance


I find that we are always balancing and compermizing every and any thing in our lives. What was the last thing you sacrifced? Posted by Picasa

For The Screamers


Scream~! You'll feel alot better! As women, we tend to put off alot of our stressful emoations and frustrations. This leads to arguements... Well I say let out your emoational frustrations with a scream. The end result will be rewarding! Posted by Picasa


Here's a Great Idea for you... Try writing down everything that you don't agree with you husband about. Afterwards, both of you discuse your problems and find a solution together... You'll be suprised! And saves money! Posted by Picasa

Saturday, July 16, 2005

For Women

So, you met the man of your dreams? From college or school or where ever. He asked you to be his wife, or perhaps you married for another reason, but the end result is still the same...

Your too young to make friends with other married women, and your to settled to hang with women around your own age...

This site is for you, its a place where you can meet others in the same situation like you own, just to chat or share comments and stuff.

You are simply... Young and Not Free! (lol)

Yahoo! Avatars

This is my dedication to one of my favorite designers... Vivienne Westwood. Keep in mind that you will have to go to the bottom of the page and stop the player at the bottom. This way you wont have two forms of audio going. Enjoy.

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